To connect with elders and children you don’t have to be a nice or happy person.You have to have personality but other than that your good. First off get to know what kind of person your dealing with. Next, you have to go do an activity you both wouldn’t mind doing and the more activities you do the more you bond with stuff you have in common. Also, you should just talk with them there’s a fifty fifth chance they’re all that bad. And in case they are just handle what you can.